I use to keep quiet.
But this woman since 2003, always made a reason not to spend time with her family. Hindsight just like Melissa, after all different kids by different men, etc.
Always a glass or bottle of fine in hand. You guessed it the right hand.
Yet anything for sympathy
This is Sheila and this will be a little lengthy but some information is meant to be shared. I just really wanted my family and some close friends to know a few things about me that maybe you don’t know. Most of you know my cancer history but the short version…1991: breast cancer and semi radical mastectomy, followed by 7 months of chemo. 1993: a reoccurrence in my lymph nodes, followed by 42 days of radiation. Was told that year to do what I wanted to do the year before because my prognosis was bad. “WE”, cancer is a family disease, suffered over the years with problems stemming from the cancer, and the effects of the chemo. About 5 years ago, I started losing feeling in my right hand, severe pain in my elbow and shoulder. All on my right side, my mastectomy side. Well, another long story short, my right hand turned blue, it was cold and the pain was excruciating. I went to a Vascular Surgeon and I had 100% blockage and had to have a Carotid-subclavian bypass surgery. Years ago my radiation Oncologist told me that “years down the road” I may experience this, but at the time, I am thinking about surviving. My surgeon was not optimistic about the surgery, he said it would not do anything for my pain I had the surgery, Surgeon ran into some difficulties since he found there to be “concrete like” stuff that they had to chisel out. The surgery was a complicated, painful mess, and I ended up in OSF ICU for 5 days. I looked like a shark had attacked me. Since then, the muscles have deteriorated in my right hand and under my arm. I have a hole where my armpit used to be. A big bar of soap fits in it. Lol I have a huge indented cavern between my thumb and index finger. I cannot write anymore, I can’t eat with my right hand, I can’t hold anything, my entire right hand, arm and shoulder are deteriorating right in front of my eyes. I could honestly take all of that, but the pain is a huge factor. I am not the same person I was 3 years ago. I don’t go to all the family functions, I don’t feel the need to be everywhere all the time. If I can get to a really comfortable, semi painless place, I WONT’ MOVE FOR ANYONE. This entire post was brought on by the fact that in the first time in 50 years, I cannot have Christmas. It was decided by my absolutely amazing, loving family that Tammi would host our huge brood at her house this year. All the work will be done by everyone in the family. With that being said, I COULD NEVER go through this without the most awesome husband in the world. You can’t know how much he takes care of me. I have a huge loving, amazing family. They treat me like a queen. This is not mean’t for sympathy, I don’t need any. I am one extremely blessed woman. I am really looking forward to the “NEW AND IMPROVED COKER CHRISTMAS EVE EXTRAVIGANZA”. Tammi has some really fun things planned and BTW, thank you Tammi for all of your extremely hard work. Love you and Merry Christmas to all!!