At given times during our lives, Narcissists and often parental alienators are
all around us and they have the uncanny ability to really push our buttons.
To understand them, we must know how they use their cogitative skills in
order to not be harmed by them.
NPAs use similar abusive tactics as “Invalidators,” a term coined by Jay
Carter Ph.D. in his book Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them
without Stooping to Their Level. These individuals have a burning desire to
control every aspect of the target parent’s relationship with their child(ren)
and employ underhanded methods: uncertainty, projection, generalization,
judgment, manipulation, sneak attack, double en tendre, cutting off commu-
nication, buildup, tear down, and double binding.
Like the parental alienator, the “narcissist will keep their victims in a
constant state of uncertainty” (Carter, 2003, pp. 7–9). They will rarely give
you an answer—just a vague response minus…
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